I was once offered a position as a morning radio show producer on a very successful radio station. My initial thought was “YES!”. For a rookie in radio an offer of this caliber was the coup de gras. With a decisive phone call this offer could have sparked a long and successful career in the business. I should have picked up the phone and dialed the programming director immediately to accept. Instead, I panicked. I called people who were not wise counsel. In fact, I began to receive responses like:
“I don’t know do you really want to move?”
“That’s a big job do you really have enough experience?”
“I do not see you doing something like that?”
“Maybe you should start smaller”
Have you ever had well meaning people give you advice or an opinion about your life, that when you tried on the idea it felt like a size too small? The excitement of your possibilities felt like a Triple XXXL. However, the overwhelming pessimism of your well-meaning “friends” began to make your dream feel like an Extra Small.
I turned down the job.
I have given up the ghost on regrets in my life. You cannot hold on to the would-of’s, should-of’s, and could-of’s. Yet, I often think back to that offer simply to remind myself (and YOU) to never underestimate your ability to become who God destined you to be. When opportunity knocks: answer, pray, decide. This could be the answer to prayers you already prayed long ago. Also, we may need the wisdom of a trusted friend who encourages us and understands our journey to offer practical insight. However, never let anyone talk you out of your dreams because of his or her fears, insecurities, or regrets.
I am a writer. In order to be a writer I have to write. The return on writing is having people read my writing. Writers, like any other artist, have to self-promote. The drawback is putting yourself out there for people to endlessly critique, form opinions, and misjudge. Yet, in so many ways I assume the critiques, opinions, and judgements add to the beauty of writing --- because now you are a writer who evokes emotion.
What is the thing that you love? What is the thing that you have held back from doing because of what people might say? What have you wanted to do, but are afraid to be vulnerable? What is thing that wakes you up at night, but you are unwilling to try because of the fear of failure? I would attest that God who has made us with such fine craftsmanship to serve him and love people would not want to see our gifts wasted on fear. When people judge…..when the naysers come with their pessimism…..when they say it cannot be done…..keep going. I guarantee you are on to something.
“Before you were born, I set you apart.” - Jeremiah 1:5